IDAHOBIT Speech

Nonbinary Berlin is a grassroots community founded in 2018 that organizes monthly meetups and events for nonbinary individuals in Berlin. It gives us a space to connect and support each other, and share our experiences.

Nowadays, we talk a lot about threats and problems, but while it is important to fight oppression, it is just as important to imagine a better future.

A world where our bodies are not a battleground. Where birth is not a sentence. Where our names, our pronouns, our way of moving through the world is ours to shape—not assigned, judged or questioned.

In this utopic world no one is assigned a gender at birth. Instead, we begin our lives open to find our true character. Children grow up surrounded by care, language, and community that nurture curiosity and choice about who they will become. Gender is discovered, not dictated. Instead, it unfolds, like art.

There, there is no “boys’ team” or “girls’ team”—only sport. Movement, strength, agility and joy: these belong to everyone. Rules are shaped not by fear of difference, but by the desire to celebrate them. We find categories similar to weight categories in martial arts for every sport, so we do not have to separate by gender.

Medicine, too, is transformed. No more pathologizing, no more gatekeeping. Bodies are not classified into hierarchies.

It is acknowledged that our bodies do not exist in a void—they’ve been shaped by patriarchy through norms and control. They have been shaped by stories about our bodies that are told from childhood on and that most of us still believe. Medicine must recognize this history, and as patriarchy fades, care must evolve to reflect these changes in our bodies, not to police them.

In thcis world, intersex traits are not erased; they are celebrated.

Those who were once assigned female at birth are no longer treated as inherently fragile and naturally broken. Their bodies are not seen as mysteries to be solved — as people they are trusted and treated with dignity.

Those once assigned male at birth are not treated as threats, symbols of danger. Their emotions, changes, softness, and vulnerability are seen as human—not deviations.

Diversity in the experience of our bodies is celebrated and highlighted instead of erased and pushed into norms.

Hormones and surgeries are available for those who want them, without shame or suspicion. And for those who do not want to medically change, their bodies are seen as whole, valid, and worthy—just as they are.

In this world, gender is not a system of control but a field of freedom. People are not punished for being fluid, for being multiple, for being in between, or for rejecting or not connecting to categories entirely. Identity is not a legal obstacle, not a punchline, not a source of violence. It is a right that is celebrated.

This is not just a world for TIN* people. It is a world made better by listening to us. Because when the most marginalized are free, everyone is freer. We are not asking to be included in someone else’s dream—we are building a dream that is big enough for everyone.

This world is possible. It begins with belief, with action, with each refusal to accept the injustice of the present. It begins with each and every one of us standing here today.

This is our utopia. And we are not waiting to live in it—we are already making it real.

Thank you.

Last update: 2025.05.13